I am a love and logic parent of my 6 year old daughter and 7 year old son, and I receive a monthly newsletter from Dr. Charles Fay giving tips on parenting. This month I received a very pertinent newletter I wanted to share with you all concerning getting your children to brush their teeth. Hope you enjoy it! Dr. Tracey Hughes
“Getting Them To Brush Their Teeth”
Have you ever been amazed at how tightly children can clench their teeth together when you try to “help” them brush their teeth? I have! And, yes, I admit it, I’ve tried to brush a strong-willed child’s teeth, for them. Fortunately, I came to my senses before I lost a finger.
While we can’t make spirited children take care of their teeth, we can apply the three E’s of Love and Logic.
The first “E” stands for example. The next time your child needs to brush, experiment with saying, “I’m going to brush my teeth. I like to take care of them so that I can have treats.”
The second “E” stands for experience. Many children need to experience some logical consequences associated with failing to take care of their mouths. Just the other day I drove through McDonald’s and ordered a child-size chocolate shake for myself. Three-year-old Cody sat in the backseat crying and whining about the fact that I didn’t get one for him. I felt horrible, but I knew that this little learning experience was far more affordable than having a mouth full of cavities as he grew older.
The third “E” stands for empathy. When we can be sad, rather than angry or sarcastic, our kids are forced to realize that their poor decisions decrease the quality of their lives.
A very creative mother said this to her 13-year-old daughter:
Honey, I’m no longer going to nag you about brushing. When I see that you aren’t, I’ll deposit your allowance into a special bank account I’ve named “dentures for my daughter.”
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Dr. Charles Fay
The Love and Logic Institute